Comments on: NY Magazine: All Joy and No Fun http://blog.parentsguild.com/2010/07/ny-magazine-all-joy-and-no-fun/ By parents, for parents. Join the guild! Sun, 22 Jan 2012 18:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Andrea http://blog.parentsguild.com/2010/07/ny-magazine-all-joy-and-no-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-379 Andrea Fri, 23 Jul 2010 22:30:27 +0000 http://blog.parentsguild.com/?p=903#comment-379 Sara, well said. Thanks for commenting! Sara, well said. Thanks for commenting!

]]> By: Sara http://blog.parentsguild.com/2010/07/ny-magazine-all-joy-and-no-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-378 Sara Thu, 22 Jul 2010 23:22:33 +0000 http://blog.parentsguild.com/?p=903#comment-378 "Middle-class parents spend much more time talking to children, answering questions with questions, and treating each child's thought as a special contribution. And this is very tiring work." Salon says: Funny, that doesn't sound like work; that sounds like having a conversation. Anything can be work if you're forced to do it against your wishes. And for those of us who parent, having to have a conversation with a 3 year old when you'd much rather just sip your coffee and read the paper IS work. Unfortunately, children don't read social cues the way adults do, and can't just entertain themselves when we need a little down time. So enjoying your kids becomes a matter of finding ways to make your activities with them a choice, and not something forced on you. Which means changing either your attitude or your reality - sometimes, getting a babysitter is the best thing you can do for your relationship with your child. “Middle-class parents spend much more time talking to children, answering questions with questions, and treating each child’s thought as a special contribution. And this is very tiring work.”

Salon says: Funny, that doesn’t sound like work; that sounds like having a conversation.

Anything can be work if you’re forced to do it against your wishes. And for those of us who parent, having to have a conversation with a 3 year old when you’d much rather just sip your coffee and read the paper IS work. Unfortunately, children don’t read social cues the way adults do, and can’t just entertain themselves when we need a little down time. So enjoying your kids becomes a matter of finding ways to make your activities with them a choice, and not something forced on you. Which means changing either your attitude or your reality – sometimes, getting a babysitter is the best thing you can do for your relationship with your child.

]]> By: What we’re reading this week « Parents Guild Blog http://blog.parentsguild.com/2010/07/ny-magazine-all-joy-and-no-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-377 What we’re reading this week « Parents Guild Blog Thu, 22 Jul 2010 21:52:09 +0000 http://blog.parentsguild.com/?p=903#comment-377 [...] More responses to the provocative New York Magazine article “All Joy, No Fun”: [...] [...] More responses to the provocative New York Magazine article “All Joy, No Fun”: [...]

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